Relationship is….hard, difficult, not easy no matter if it is to your partner or to your family. It is all about to work on it all the time.
I guess it is simulary in most families. I am just so used to not hear complements from my own family. Sad but true. But from my nearest friends and bonus-family I hear more and I am so thankful for that and those people in my life!
What I do hear is *”have you found anyone yet?” or *”you are old enough to get married if you want a family”. Like that is the easiest thing in the world ?!? And why is it so hard to just respect that “everyone” doesn’t find the life-partner early in life ?!? And “everyone” might not want kids or can have there own.
Why is it like this, “you” are somehow a load ask about sore subject to me but if I ask the same question I am rude ?!
Why is it okay to “assume” that a couple wants kids just because they are engaged or married ? Or why is it okay to ask “aren’t you gonna have kids?” What happen with the private frame, “this space is my – that space is yours”?
Who says everyone wants kids? or for the matter want to let you know? Why is it okay to ask “the question” more then once?
Where is the respect for one and another choices today?
I can’t say I saw myself being single in 2015 few years ago, but that’s how life is. And just because I am single I get *the question every time I meet my family and it is more then just enjoining! All I want is respect and non questions about who or if I have met someone.
If I would tell someone about my private life, I do it to close friends or my two bonus-sisters. Before my mom got sick could I tell her, well I guess I could do it now too just knowing she wont even remember it after ten seconds.
I do dream to get married. And I have realized that when that day come it will not please my family. But in the end it is my life, my dream.
/Mia-Simone
mia-simone. svenberg 