Category: Dating

Am I stuck with my head in the sand because I can’t get away and not thinking on age difference in a relationship?

Age difference in a relationship, how important is that really? Are “we” to much into that because of the society thinking? Or is it just the “way we grow up thinking “?

How are you thinking? Are you in a relationship where you are younger or older than your partner?

Why am I writing about this? Well I have started to ask myself the question. Am I still single because I thought “I always wanted a younger man in my life” or “have I failed so many times because I only looked for a younger man because I look younger than my actually age?”  I know I shouldn’t think like this. I should be able to focus on chemistry and common interests. But I am reacting on my self’s thinking about age.

What “benefits” is it with an older vs younger man in a relationship?

I have forced myself to try to “look” for someone in my own agerange and above when it comes to go on a date – yes there it was… 😆🤪 and I would love to here from you whom follow my blog, how do you think about this “issue I have”?

Can I trust the matching test most dating app’s has (for a reason) or will I continue to be skeptical to them?  Do they work? And how much will be right?   I have so many questions about this 🙈🙈🙈 . But it is something that occupy my thoughts.

Please respond if you read this 😉.

Online dating or IRLD = InRealLifeDating

What do we like the best of those two? I would say IRLD! Have it happend me reasonly? No. Have I dreamt about it?Yes. This post is about IRLD. Why? Well because I have taken a break from Dating App’s and I think it will be possible to date someone I eventually meet in real life. I believe it can happend. So I will update you in this area if and when it happends. So just have patience and trust the Lord, he will guide me and you to meet our partner we want to meet.

Online dating (annoying or not) part 9.

I have now been talking to this man for approxy 4 weeks. We went from talking on the dating app to Snap to WhatsApp. It’s been a journey of it’s own! We don’t have any issue to talk about anything and everything. We have figured out that we have a lot in comman yet many things where we are the opposite which I think is good.

We both want to get to know the other on a friend level and build the relationship from that place. We share values and we are both Christians – which is the part I never though I actually would find a Christian man – but here he is.

My question to myself is – will it be as good when we meet as it is now when we are talking or will it not be anything at all or could it be even better? Am I doubting this concept? Well for sure I can feel I am doubting.

I don’t have good experience of online dating so far in my life, and i started to do oline dating all ready 15-20 years ago(!)

My prayers are; pls let it be good chemistry between us when we meet so all thing we have been talking about won’t be for nothing! Pls let it be better then when we talking. And pls let us be able to continue on this friendship, let it grow into love and bigger.

The Journey of Oline dating, isn’t as streight forward as people migth think… It’s many bumps and other obstacles on the road, many questions, doubts and more especially if you don’t live or work on the same continent or in the same land!!

To have focus on the good feeling, the feeling of chemisrty is important and pray together and for each other if you share that. If you don’t share it, pray for him/her. In prayers the Lord can sow and harvest things you can’t.

To be adults and be able to be open of everything is important for me. So I asked questions very early in our conversation, things that are important for me. And he has done that too. 🙂

Offcourse we have different thoughts about things, but I think one of the most important thing when you trying to get to know a man/woman through online dating is to be flexible and open to change yourself if it something he/she like to so and you never tryed it before or never done it, like in my case. He loves snorkling – something I never done. But just because I never done it doesn’t mean I will never do it – so if I am open minded here I might be able to have a good experience one day with him for what he likes 🙂 .

We talk a lot about what each of us want’s in the future partner, qualities and personal characteristics, hobbies, future place to live have we discussed – mainly cause we have a ocean between us (!) Even when he is at work, cause he is an engineer and work different place.

We have our own journey and backpacker we carry with us, all of ous who are dating. Where are our focus in all this? And how do we cope with it all? Well it’s up to each of us to find a pattern that fits us and share it with the one we date. If you are lucky to meet IRL or like me being online for weeks before the first meeting, yet I have to find a good pattern and spend time with him when it fit’s his schedule. And support each other even more important when it’s a distance between us/you two!

To dream by yourself and later with your partner, I guess that’s what we all are doing. Dreaming of a partner when we are single is one thing and an other thing when you meet someone you like not just for how he/she looks like but for whom he/she is. No matter where you are in life right now you are dreaming for something i life, I do. So we are all “the same”. We all have vissions about life and what we want to do, travel, for work etc.

This picture of the hot air balloon, is my dream cause I love heights – yes I do! If I had the money I would love to get married in a hot air balloon ride for sure.

I choose this picture of the hot air balloon for an other reason too, not just for dreams or cause I have it on my blog. No. it’s something about this picture I like and I think it’s the space around it, the freedom, the clouds, the simplicity of where it is and going. A bit like me and maybe you. We have a freedom, a simplicity if we want it from the Lord. We just need to see it 🙂 . Sometimes we are “to focused” on here and now that we forget about the plan that isn’t ours but the Lord. He can see us everywhere and places we have issues to see infront of us because we don’t allow us that picture.

But back to the “core” of this post….

I believe I met this man in the right time for me, maybe especially cause most other things in my life is so uncertan (work and if I am going to stay where I live right now). I hadn’t given up on “finding” someone. No, I had good conversations with the Lord on this. And the Lord gave me more and more patience on this area. The funny thing is that thirteen years ago when I moved to this region the first time I got a line from the Lord saying “next time you live here, you will meet a man a future hubby”. The Lord never said when or how long I had to live here before meeting this hubby ^^haha^^. But the point is, the Lord had a plan and on the way he gave me more and more patience to where I am and waiting on my future husband 😉 .

I just have to believe and trust the Lord.

Online dating, part 8. Different in a good way – I hope.

I haven’t written about this for a while mostly becauce I haven’t been on any dates lately. Still haven’t. But I am talking to a very interesting man those day’s 😊.

We both wanted to meet, but circumstances did we were not able to before he had to catch a ✈ to London and then an other ✈ to the Black Sea area for work.

So now we’ve been talking for approxy a week, I think he gets more and more interesting. Unusual experience for me. Not comman, but we have also learn we have more and more in comman 😊.

He is different then the others I’ve talked to in many ways!! Good ways.

We will be talking online until he is back from work in mid-August or maybe later 🤪🙂. 🤞 this just will be better the more we get to know each other.

I have been chatting with several man the two last months, and it’s “always” one part where they just have to talk about sex. And if you ask for a date and saying you don’t want to have sex on the first date they block you 😆😆. I haven’t even said why. I don’t think it’s worth talking with a man when he react that way.

Which is why this man I’m now talking to. The sex talk hasn’t been up yet, which I like. So,yes, he is different in a good way.

Online dating (annoying or not), part 7.

Suddely and I mean that. Have I started to talk to a guy. Not believer Christian. But it’s okay for me because of the deal I have with the Lord. He took the first propper contact 😊😊.

And as more we talk as more he acts and respect my thoughts and if I don’t want hom to send a picture or msg je doesn’t 😊and in my head he becomes more and more as a gentleman. He surprise me in many ways. He isn’t like most other guys I’ve talked to on the same age as him. And this is positive!

Is this to good to be true or not?

I wont give you details but can say he is Norwegian. It doesn’t become awkward or silent if I ask him something oh no he is better then that. 🙂. He ask as much as me 😊. Seems really interesed. Wants to meet on a date and two if the chemesrty is there, which I think it actually can be. But we just have to wait…

I can’t say ‘he is more mature becauce he has a kid’ because I’ve talked to other guys with kids not as mature as this one! Trust me.

In this dating app, you can choose to take a test that looks at personality, openness, personal traits, housekeeping and order, sloppiness etc. It’s a personality test to find out who.one fits best with, a type of algorithm.

Me and this guy, score pretty much the same on the 5 biggest areas that the dating app prioritises. …like, 84% on cohabitation (sex and cohabitation, equality, house order, exercise and health). 94% on interest (sport, culture, music, travel and nature). 88% on communication and 76% on personality.

I am impressed! Not just on this guy, no. How the Lord has been with me so far and still is, His way of guiding me steps! I haven’t really been looking looking for a match so far this year. My words to the Lord were ” I’ll put this “chasing” and need you to guide my steps or answer the guy who contact me”. And that is what happend here 😊.

When I put my trust into the Lord he provides!

…But it will not be any date with this guy anyway 😔, he has blocked me. As sudden as it felt good it feels like a “poof” of something good just went away. Can’t really put words on what I think or feel for something like this. I guess it was too good to be true 😔.

This happend approxy a year ago too…

Well well, I “keep searching fir mr right” even though I don’t search more looking.

online dating (annoying or not) part 4.

The 2nd date was nice too. I wont give you details becauce that’s private. But I can tell you, we watched a movie he liked and was too predictable action for me… We thought we liked the same kind of movies, now I’m not so sure anymore 🤣🤣.

Here and now the day after the date evening, I’m not so sure we gonna go on a 3rd date. I don’t have a good feeling that we actually have so much in commen… but hey! Two dates with the same man is more then I have had in a year 😊😊. And I am actually quite okay with that! 😊

I’ll trust the Lord and my inner voice that telling me “maybe not more dates with him, we might not look for the same things in life”. And that is fine for me!

I have had two fun dates and I’m very okay with that. 😊.

To know when enough is enough with the one you date. And focus on other fun things. Now it’s time to focus on Advent 😊🤩 . Maybe I go on other dates maybe not until after New Year. Who knows?!? I don’t and I am fibd with that! 😉.

Continue reading online dating (annoying or not) part 4.

Online dating (annoying or not) part 3.

What I have learn so far, is that, if I talk to the Lord of my wishes then I have to listen to him to talk to me. And I need to have patince for the Lord to do his work. To think that, “I’ll find my hubby will be easy when the Lord is with me” isn’t really right thinking. It takes time. So don’t put your focus on when but on the lord. Let him guide you. Go on dates to figure out what you don’t want is also important. Have your focus on other things in life and go on one date here and there is okay. It doesn’t always need to be for you, it can actually be generous enough to just let the other person figure out what he/she is looking for especially if he/she has been in a long relationship not long ago. 😉. Be the Christian you maybe want to be, the one that hear the other person, or just go on a date to get out there. You need to start somewhere.

And go back in time, ask the Lord to remind you on what you have asked for years back in what you want in your partner. See if it’s the same now or have you change? What do you really looking for in a partner? What’s what you really want in life? And trust the Lord! He has a plan for you and your future. And please, don’t let other Christian people, friends or family tell you what you need. You know you and the Lord knows you. 💜. You can ask for guidence from friends and family or ask them to pray with you. But trust the lord for “a train” to jump up on and see where it takes you. It might not “be the one” but you will learn so much about yourself and what you are looking for to just try to ride “the train” 😉. Who says love is easy or just fun? Give it a try, you will learn a lot and bring your knowledge with you to the next relationship. Stand on your terms for what fits you and your faith. 💜.

I don’t know if I have found love, but I am willing to try and see where it leads me, and that’s why I am on this dating app. A Scandinavian dating app.

Continue reading Online dating (annoying or not) part 3.

Dating, online dating, challenges – what to expect.

Is always interesting. You never know how it will turn. Today, Sunday November 13th, I’ve just been on a nice date. And I say nice becauce it wasn’t any sparks or anything else. We chatted & shared some commen things.

We might be friends, but nothing else. And that’s life. I live. And I will continue this until mr right turns up 😉. I have patience becauce I am not hunting. No, I am enjoying to get out there and meeting people. I thinking it’s to interesting to not go on a date.

I see it as a good reason to get to know a new person I wouldn’t meet othervice and a good way for the lord to work through me in a situation I have no clue how it will go. It’s all about letting the Lord to be in control and talk to me and for me to be open.

Dating should not be a bad thing even if it’s not turning out to be what you might want. I think we need set our standars lower on what “we want” on the first date. If you think you find “mr/mrs right” on your first date no matter how short/long you been txting, you need to lower your expectations. You need to think: I am getting to know this person for the first time. Maybe you even need to reset your brain into a friends mode to be able to just get to know this person and not look for pro’s or con’s.

🤍 And pray about, let friends know what you want and when you going on a date, so they can stand by you in prayers. 🤍

Online dating (is annoying), part two.

I have not given up, just don’t understand some men! Why even respond if you (the man) just gonna block me anyway?! And this isn’t the first time. It happends every time I try. Well well. I will not give up, becauce I am not a quitter. I just don’t understand how today’s men work.

Is it Corona that change people, the dating-culture? Why aren’t people willing ‘to get to know each other’ anymore? What’s the harm of get a coffee or a beer and get to know the other person?

I will not give up not just becauce I am stubbern oh no, becauce the Lord have given me peace over this. I am trusting the Lord and his way. So I will, keep trying until the Lord give me the peace he gives when it’s right. ✝️❤

I may not understand some men, but you know what, I will start to see it as God is closing a door just like a job application.

And Trust the Lord. Becauce the Lord knows what’s the best for you & me. 💜. Don’t take a No as a No, take it as an answer from the Lord. Let the Lord show you his plan no matter how many dates you attend to or you get blocked from something you wrote! The Lord will be on your side as long as you listen to his way of communication to you.