Category: Online dating

Online dating (annoying or not), part 6.

The most annoying part of online dating is all those guys and yes I mean guys! Who just show interesst in me because I look young and have past 40. So tired of them! They only want one thing and still think woman also just want that 😔😔. Pls grow up! And pls understand not all woman wants that.

Or I end up chatting with some okay interesting man that lives far far away and can chat forever… or who has focus on how much you 2 need to have in comman… Sorry that’s not me. I know it takes time and effort to get to know an other person no matter if this person “just” will end becoming my friend or future boyfriend. But it seams like I am quite alone thinking that 🤪🤪

I don’t say I will give up. No I do believe “someone” is out there for me. So I just have to switch focus. In the meanwhile I am trying to get back to work after one week on sick leave and be thankful for those I do have around me.

2nd annoying r those who don’t understand the point of a profile txt!! Or those who just like “cute” pictures 🤪🤪🤬.

I have been on snap with a guy, he thought I was “the right girl” for him. He was convinst I were what he was lo8king for. 😆😆. I tryed to get him to understand that it’s a bit smart to be objective when you want to get to know an other person but he was only in his normal track. Wrong track for me. He “showed” some, for me important sides, but they didn’t last 😔. When he send me pictures I didn’t ask for & I asked him to respect me and what I didn’t want. He didn’t. So I ditched him. I just can’t stand a person who can’t respect me and my values.

Just because “we all” are out on some dating app dosen’t mean we all “just do whatever we want” and “give a shit” about values and not respecting others out there. I do know a lot of people do, give a shit, but I don’t!

Online dating (annoying or not), part 5.

To get 2 know an other person through an app, u need time & patience. U need 2 ‘through’ u out there & write about who u r, post pictures from ur daily life. U need 2 confront ur thinking & more important compromice w/ urself. Why? Well becauce most of the time the person u trying 2 get 2 know living in an other area from u and u can’t just go there. U need 2 through urself out there 2 find someone.

U need 2 write so someone understand what u are looking for, to catch something that is u. U need 2 compromice with urself. What is the most important for u 2 not just beliefs and values?!? And how are u appreciate ur self and other peoples values? How do u talking, writing, txting, blogging mm.

U need 2 have pictures on ur profile if u want someone to get curious on u. U need details from ur life. Make it short but interesting. U can talk 2 more then one but u should not date more then one person at once! And ask as much as u can If u live far away from each other.

Dig into the details as far as u managed to ur values, don’t let other peoples voices hindering u to figuer out what u want to know. Only u know what u are curious about. No question is wrong. If u feel the conversation goes into an area u dont like u only say STOP and explain why u don’t want to talk about it. And if he/she doesn’t listen to u, he/she isn’t worth more txting becauce he/she doesn’t respect u.

In today’s suciety among Christians “u shouldn’t get into certain areas in txting.” I think that is up to u and ur relationship with the Lord. Talk loud to the Lord and pray for guidence.

Only you know you. Your limits. But be careful!! Don’t do or write things you don’t want!! Remeber what you stand for and what you want or not want. He/she can’t say or write things you don’t like and tell you to do it. Then he/she isn’t worth txting with!

And then it comes to how and when you start txting on snap or simular app or start to call each other. What do u share? Where are ur limits? How far are u willing to go to share? Well it’s up to u. But I would not recomand to share intimicy! He/she probably want u to share intimicy… often so 😔 is my experience. I stop b4 that. And if he/she start and continue I block the person becauce then he/she doesn’t listen to my limits. It’s not worth to go there! Something should be private!! No matter what most people do & share. Make sure u show u r different & that u can stand up for urself 💜.

Stand up for your limits, your values and what you like not like. Remember who you are. It’s okay to take a break and not do a thing too 😊. It shouldn’t be a thing to stress about! Very many are desperate to find a new partner, they are tired to be alone. I don’t even read thoses profiles. They are not enough interesting for me. The last thing I need is a desperate person into my life!

Very important is; have patince. To get know a new person is like to become your new friend, it takes time so why should it go faster to get to know your partner? Take the time, chat, call each other, go on dates, do practical things, have fun and think you are trying to get a new friend . This new friend can end up becoming your best friend in life and walk beside you 💗.

Online dating (is annoying)…

Right now I am just frustrated and annoyed…You know how life can “kick your as” sometimes… My is like that today. Got very annoyed already yesterday cause of a man I’ve started to talk to on a dating app and than on messanger on Friday evening. He very keen on a date and than 24 hours later no respond at all. Why and how come? Well I don’t know. Have no clue. Therefor am I very annoyed and frustrated. An I thought if I wrote about it (and maybe someone have been where I am could give me any kind of feedback) I would feel a bit better. Because thats how I work.

And I have to say it already helps. 🙂 Just typing it helps. But offcourse if you give me any feedback I would love that too!! 🙂

Why is it so that most people on a dating app are so not polite? Just because one write something the other person you write to, doesn’t like what you wrote, than it’s fine to totally ignore that and in worst case block that person? Since when is that polite? And if you met in real life??? I just don’t understand!!

Just because you are online, does that mean you can be rude to everyone?? It’s not just on a dating app, it’s others blog or other type of social media. Since when??

I doubt you would do that if you met the person. I wouldn’t. Am I trying to be “to polite” online? Am I rased in an other world, I am not rased by to beliving Christian folks so I can’t say my childhood is or was very different than most.

How do you think about this? Do you have any experience? And what would you do?

Anyway, I got an other date, today. And I am looking forward that. We have planned to just walk along the seaside and get to know each other. I might tell you how it went after. It’s not just about to date someone to see if you fit each other for me, some of them is worth a date just to get to know the other person. Maybe I get a new friend I can hang with who knows?

I will not say “offcourse I am looking for a man for the rest of my life” because I can’t say “for the rest of my life” cause I don’t know how long I live or if I’ll meet the “right person” now or later. I think most people should use other words even if I totally understand why people use the term. I have since I moved to Norway wanted to meet a man, yet haven’t that happend. I have been living here for fifteen years in September. Maybe I haven’t been ready as a person. Whatever reason I haven’t met the “right man” yet I guess is only the lord who knows. And I have come to peace with that fact, that whenever I do meet this man, I will be ready both as who I am and as a Christian. Wheneever it happends life will be good, I will be in a good place and mostly I am not stressed about it as I actually have been… And annoying family members has been more stressed. The different between me and my family is that they have been wanting a “good man who can give me kids” without asking me if thats what I wanted. They have just been assuming that’s what I wanted because “I am a christian” or because “I am a woman”. Which sucks!! I have since I don’t know, been wanted to meet a man with kids from before and not get my own once for years and years.

I am just whishing for a man with kids from an other relationship, sorry if you don’t like that. But the Lord have given me peace so I live with that.

Some of my bonus family totally undestands me others don’t and that’s okay. I live my life.