To get 2 know an other person through an app, u need time & patience. U need 2 ‘through’ u out there & write about who u r, post pictures from ur daily life. U need 2 confront ur thinking & more important compromice w/ urself. Why? Well becauce most of the time the person u trying 2 get 2 know living in an other area from u and u can’t just go there. U need 2 through urself out there 2 find someone.
U need 2 write so someone understand what u are looking for, to catch something that is u. U need 2 compromice with urself. What is the most important for u 2 not just beliefs and values?!? And how are u appreciate ur self and other peoples values? How do u talking, writing, txting, blogging mm.
U need 2 have pictures on ur profile if u want someone to get curious on u. U need details from ur life. Make it short but interesting. U can talk 2 more then one but u should not date more then one person at once! And ask as much as u can If u live far away from each other.
Dig into the details as far as u managed to ur values, don’t let other peoples voices hindering u to figuer out what u want to know. Only u know what u are curious about. No question is wrong. If u feel the conversation goes into an area u dont like u only say STOP and explain why u don’t want to talk about it. And if he/she doesn’t listen to u, he/she isn’t worth more txting becauce he/she doesn’t respect u.
In today’s suciety among Christians “u shouldn’t get into certain areas in txting.” I think that is up to u and ur relationship with the Lord. Talk loud to the Lord and pray for guidence.
Only you know you. Your limits. But be careful!! Don’t do or write things you don’t want!! Remeber what you stand for and what you want or not want. He/she can’t say or write things you don’t like and tell you to do it. Then he/she isn’t worth txting with!
And then it comes to how and when you start txting on snap or simular app or start to call each other. What do u share? Where are ur limits? How far are u willing to go to share? Well it’s up to u. But I would not recomand to share intimicy! He/she probably want u to share intimicy… often so 😔 is my experience. I stop b4 that. And if he/she start and continue I block the person becauce then he/she doesn’t listen to my limits. It’s not worth to go there! Something should be private!! No matter what most people do & share. Make sure u show u r different & that u can stand up for urself 💜.
Stand up for your limits, your values and what you like not like. Remember who you are. It’s okay to take a break and not do a thing too 😊. It shouldn’t be a thing to stress about! Very many are desperate to find a new partner, they are tired to be alone. I don’t even read thoses profiles. They are not enough interesting for me. The last thing I need is a desperate person into my life!
Very important is; have patince. To get know a new person is like to become your new friend, it takes time so why should it go faster to get to know your partner? Take the time, chat, call each other, go on dates, do practical things, have fun and think you are trying to get a new friend . This new friend can end up becoming your best friend in life and walk beside you 💗.
mia-simone. svenberg 