Dreams – mia-simone. svenberg

Online dating (annoying or not) part 9.

I have now been talking to this man for approxy 4 weeks. We went from talking on the dating app to Snap to WhatsApp. It’s been a journey of it’s own! We don’t have any issue to talk about anything and everything. We have figured out that we have a lot in comman yet many things where we are the opposite which I think is good.

We both want to get to know the other on a friend level and build the relationship from that place. We share values and we are both Christians – which is the part I never though I actually would find a Christian man – but here he is.

My question to myself is – will it be as good when we meet as it is now when we are talking or will it not be anything at all or could it be even better? Am I doubting this concept? Well for sure I can feel I am doubting.

I don’t have good experience of online dating so far in my life, and i started to do oline dating all ready 15-20 years ago(!)

My prayers are; pls let it be good chemistry between us when we meet so all thing we have been talking about won’t be for nothing! Pls let it be better then when we talking. And pls let us be able to continue on this friendship, let it grow into love and bigger.

The Journey of Oline dating, isn’t as streight forward as people migth think… It’s many bumps and other obstacles on the road, many questions, doubts and more especially if you don’t live or work on the same continent or in the same land!!

To have focus on the good feeling, the feeling of chemisrty is important and pray together and for each other if you share that. If you don’t share it, pray for him/her. In prayers the Lord can sow and harvest things you can’t.

To be adults and be able to be open of everything is important for me. So I asked questions very early in our conversation, things that are important for me. And he has done that too. 🙂

Offcourse we have different thoughts about things, but I think one of the most important thing when you trying to get to know a man/woman through online dating is to be flexible and open to change yourself if it something he/she like to so and you never tryed it before or never done it, like in my case. He loves snorkling – something I never done. But just because I never done it doesn’t mean I will never do it – so if I am open minded here I might be able to have a good experience one day with him for what he likes 🙂 .

We talk a lot about what each of us want’s in the future partner, qualities and personal characteristics, hobbies, future place to live have we discussed – mainly cause we have a ocean between us (!) Even when he is at work, cause he is an engineer and work different place.

We have our own journey and backpacker we carry with us, all of ous who are dating. Where are our focus in all this? And how do we cope with it all? Well it’s up to each of us to find a pattern that fits us and share it with the one we date. If you are lucky to meet IRL or like me being online for weeks before the first meeting, yet I have to find a good pattern and spend time with him when it fit’s his schedule. And support each other even more important when it’s a distance between us/you two!

To dream by yourself and later with your partner, I guess that’s what we all are doing. Dreaming of a partner when we are single is one thing and an other thing when you meet someone you like not just for how he/she looks like but for whom he/she is. No matter where you are in life right now you are dreaming for something i life, I do. So we are all “the same”. We all have vissions about life and what we want to do, travel, for work etc.

This picture of the hot air balloon, is my dream cause I love heights – yes I do! If I had the money I would love to get married in a hot air balloon ride for sure.

I choose this picture of the hot air balloon for an other reason too, not just for dreams or cause I have it on my blog. No. it’s something about this picture I like and I think it’s the space around it, the freedom, the clouds, the simplicity of where it is and going. A bit like me and maybe you. We have a freedom, a simplicity if we want it from the Lord. We just need to see it 🙂 . Sometimes we are “to focused” on here and now that we forget about the plan that isn’t ours but the Lord. He can see us everywhere and places we have issues to see infront of us because we don’t allow us that picture.

But back to the “core” of this post….

I believe I met this man in the right time for me, maybe especially cause most other things in my life is so uncertan (work and if I am going to stay where I live right now). I hadn’t given up on “finding” someone. No, I had good conversations with the Lord on this. And the Lord gave me more and more patience on this area. The funny thing is that thirteen years ago when I moved to this region the first time I got a line from the Lord saying “next time you live here, you will meet a man a future hubby”. The Lord never said when or how long I had to live here before meeting this hubby ^^haha^^. But the point is, the Lord had a plan and on the way he gave me more and more patience to where I am and waiting on my future husband 😉 .

I just have to believe and trust the Lord.

Like the fog can be thick, is my faith strong.

… if it’s time or just life I don’t know, but something has hit me. (Not so hard thankfully.)

It’s like the fog on the picture above, it’s something beautiful and scarry in the same time.

I have, since I moved back to Oslo area ten years ago (2011) this month, been missing the West coast of Norway.

I moved to Stavanger in september 2010, after the Lord open up a job in a kindergarten. I felt how the Lord was talking to me and how He led me. But I did not stay as long as planned…

I lived there for 6,5months. The plan was a year, I thought. The years here on the East side have had the purpose and the Lord has worked within me and with me. And I would not be who I am if I had not moved back!

And the Lord gave me the reason why I needed to moved back to Oslo area, so I did not just move just becauce I did not like the job in Stavanger. Oh no, it was deeper than that.

But now, ten years later things are different again. And once again I have peace from the Lord about moving. Where? Well I do not now. 🤪.

So I apply for the jobs I have enough knowledge for and trusting the Lord in this too. 🙏 ✝️.

/Mia-Simone.Svenberg.2021

Time with a friend.

To share life with a friend once in a while. To grab a coffee or a cup of tea. Take time – make time.

My challenge this year is to be more social with friends after work. I have not had that kind of energy before and I am doing my best to force myself to more social after work. How can I do that?

Today Tuesday I woke up one hour earlier than normal and I’ve been tired all day and I said to myself that “it’s better to go and grab a coffee with my friend and stay at home and fall a sleep in the 🛋”

I went, and I am happy I did!

To share time, life, thoughts and things we Christians experince is both encourging and good to do. To listen to the other person. To just be in the situation.

To talk with the Lord and ask for what I wish for in life after the meeting was also something we talked about over the ☕. And I reminded myself to do that. And asked to be reminded about it every day. Becauce it doesn’t matter where we talk or when as long as we do it! ✝️

To take time is to care for the other person.

/Mia-Simone.Svenberg.2020.

Colours in life.2.

My inspiration to colours in life comes mostly from some interior magazines.

This is my second book of inspiration, or scrap-book as most people would say, where I do my version of “the pins” you find online. I have to keep my inspiration or ideas when I find something I like. Most people who buy a interior magazines maybe keep it a month, I keep it for years. I go back and find something “new” I have not seen or maybe I did not like it when this magazine was new in my home..

Here is few pictures from my 2nd scrap-book… it’s a good mix of Christmas to how to organize flowers with candle ligths 😉…

Some ideas from my first scrap-book..

This is like a candy store for me.

This gives me lots of positive energy and it’s relaxing for me, it’s like to “go in to a hobby room” even if I just do this in my couch or sewing-corner. 😆😆😆

/Mia-Simone.Svenberg

Colours in Life.

Sorry (to everyone who following my blog) I have not written in a while! I’ve been travel and time has fled to fast since last blog! It’s been a bit crazy with a new work-experience place…

Any way,

I don’t know how you see me, more then maybe a very creative person, but I love colours. Strong colours. And I need colours in my life. My home for example has colours and it’s not the ordinary home like everyone else. Yes, it’s my chaos with colours. 🙂 It makes me HaPpy. I have had a dream of a red kitchen since I was a teenager, I don’t think this kitchen I have in mind will be totally red in the future as I dreamt of but that’s okay. As long as I have one spot in red I will be happy.

You know how much I love the Autumn, which is a season of lots of colours therefor the featured picture of a leaf. Which leads med to the pictures I’m gonna post here, some may be pictures I’ve shared before.

Single or Get Married? Part two of three.

So I have finally picked up the book again. Trying to finishing it. My motivation isn’t really there but I will make it through! The book of Marriage. A very interesting book (!) for us women. It is called “get married, What Woman Can Do To Help It Happen”and it is a lot to both read, adjust and get into the get into everyday life as a single girl/lady (whatever you like to call your self). It is a help in the way most of us woman think and act to get involved in a relationship with a man and NOT how to be his friend.

It is easy to be the girl that is always hanging with the guys (for me that’s who I’ve been more then less my whole life). This book goes deeper then that. This book lets us know how we manage to “jump” over that part of just stay as friends and how we will act to not get into the friend-relationship and actually get “under his skin” and understand how he is thinking and what he appreciate, what he likes to hear from us. It gives us “the key” or “tools” how to be and say to reach his interest.

It also talks about..

“Mentors – how great value it is”… Paul in the bible provided a remedy in the advice he gave in Titus 2. Speaking about the range of ages in any church body, he encouraged the older believers to counsel the younger ones. Getting wisdom from someone who’s further down the road is invaluable. ..maybe even more so – they’re better able to provide scouting than your peers. It’s far trendier, and less awkward, to seek advice and help of your friends. But when it comes to finding a husband, older woman and couples, have a lot more to offer.

Get someone that can challenge you, get you to a higher standard, how to dress like a lady, eating better and exercising.

If you only spend time with people in the same season of your life you’re in, the competition for available men likely be fierce. But if your friends span the generations, it’s probable they will know or be related to eligible men.

“Relationships ebb and flow; what’s important is that this guy carries the qualities and characteristics of a godly man you’ve been waiting for.” (words from the authors pastor.)

Where are the men? And are they actually interested in marriage?

In one word, sleeping. Most of the men in our culture haven’t had any high expectations to meet. …so they’re passive. But you can encourage them, by the greatest motivation, your belief. They need a women who see in them, and encourage, what God designed men to be. Your respect is what leads to his pursuit.

“I gives me things to think of.“

I’ve read this verse before, but it has never hit me like it does in this context. It has open up my eyes of “what a man looking for in me” and how I should start to act and be and say things to a man. In the beginning of this book I thought “I will just read it” but now when I still haven’t got further then half of the book I realize this book is much heavier then I thought! In a good way thou. I gives me things to think of. How am I acting with a man? Am I actually encouraging him? should I skip some things when I am mumbling? I have to say I like this book more and more as deeper I get and as further I read in it. It challenging me!

In this chapter “waking up a great sleeper” the author who been in the same situation her self, talks about her experience and how she met her husband. What her mentor challenged her to do in the same time how she learn to be more lady-like in her mind, what she was wearing and also how important it actually is to take care of our body in a physical way – to go to the gym. She talks about Discern His Charater, Assess His Potential, Ask the Right Questions, Encourage His Spiritual Maturity and Dream With Him. The last part of “dream with Him” is more in the sentence of when you actually got him on some dating. I have just read this chapter and I have say, it have open up new ways, thoughts how I will try it out in real life!

Happy and Thankful!

Since last blog I am Happy and Thankful for what happened during the meeting I had last Thursday. I went to this meeting at PS: Hotel to see and hear if I could start a work-experience there, and I will. I got all the information about how it work and what will be the plan for me when I start.

I will start the 1^st of August. The first week will I be there – in the reception – hopefully from 0800am to 1200 (lunch) Monday to Friday. The second week I will be there also Monday to Friday 1400 to 1800. Those two weeks is all about learning as much as possible and after that I will start earlier and also work weekends.

But hey, right now I am just in the happiness-moon So Thankful I finally got a door open, have opportunity to get the opportunity to be in a Hotel reception and get the work-experience I need to get the dream-job.

This is what I have been waiting for, praying for and asked God for in my life to happened. God has been patience and given me so much patience the last year.

It is one year and one month since I was doing something where I had routines, things to do and had colleges. One more week of doing those things I have pushed a head of me… I have been to IKEA and other stores to get things I’ve needed for some time. I am going to the optician, my orthopedist those last days of this last week. And I manage to get the wrong date of my nieces Birthday. Big Ooooops! But it’s on its way in few hours.

Yea, since last blog I have actually been swimming three more times. Lovely to be in the water and swim some but the heat is not in a good combination with my body. I feel like I am a “siesta” person, that I am born in the wrong continent in the same time I know I would not survive to live in a warmer continent.

I love the winter, snow and when it is minus degrees.

In summer-time I love it when it is not more then around plus 22 degrees C, that’s perfect for my body and me! It is enough warm for me to live. Warmer and I do not live I just survive. And the different between “just survive” to actually “live” is big!

Anyway…

I am Happy and looking forward to start a new chapter in my life!

God is Good!

/Mia-Simone.

The phone-call about my future..

Yesterday I received a phone-call about my future. In my head I thought I would received a letter, but hey a phone-call is better and quicker.

I woke up of my phone vibrating in my bed, my consultant from NAV was calling because I send her a msg yesterday. …So today I’m sitting here in front of my lap top thinking about “who am I?” and “what is my qualities?” with my coffee on my left side of me in the mean time my cat Silver playing around with some paper. It’s not an interview it’s a small meeting with information about what they can offer and what kind of expectations I have.

Lets go back in time so I can explain what’s this is about.

SO I took a course in office and administration two years ago. A really good course I would say. I learned a lot new stuff I didn’t know and it went over 30 weeks and then it was a period of work-experience over 90 days or three months depending ho you want to express your self. I had three months of work-experience in the same building as I took the course, which for me wasn’t a problem. The problem was that I didn’t get a job there after the three months and I didn’t get the experience I needed to work in the field I wanted. I have had a year of applying to jobs with no luck because I don’t have what’s requested. But God has given me a new term of patience in my life and he let me be myself and enjoy life in a way I haven’t enjoyed it before.

So in December last year I had an appointment with my consultant at NAV about what this KVP (Qualifying Program) is and how to apply to it, what I needed from my doctor and if it was something else we needed to think of. I got the appointment with my doctor, got the paper to my consultant and the process was there.

In March I started a process to “pick up the phone” and ring all kinds of Hotel’s because that’s my dream. I want to work with booking and in the reception in a Hotel, I would fit perfect to work during the night. (For those who knows me, they would say yes, that’s where you belong. Because I am so much a night-owl.) Unlucky no Hotel’s could give me a spot. One of the reasons was they went all out on strike in April and during May. So when June came along I felt this is over and I texted my consultant and we started the process we are in now.

In the end of May we applied for me to get a spot in this Hotel, (PS: Hotel in Oslo) to have work-experience. And yesterday as I said before, I received the phone-call and will have a meeting tomorrow.

I am now looking forward to start asap even though I would like to have some-kind of Holiday before. Well I guess I’ll know after tomorrow when I can start and how soon I’ll have Holiday.

/Mia-Simone

Thoughts in and about life.

Different thoughts has past my brain the last two weeks about what I could write as a blog this time. Thoughts like how my moving-day went, how it is to do a re-start to get to the gym again, what my thoughts are if a guy shows me interests and how I react or not react to how fun it is to have enough space and a cat. I am not sure yet how this blog will end, but it will be one. Maybe a bit more random blog then most of them.

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The moving-day went well and we were done after four hours of carrying all my stuff from the basement to the attic. 60 stair steps up and down.

A good workout that day!

I had to put my cat Silver in the bathroom until we were done, just so he would not be in the way. I do not think he was happy with that, but SO happy when I let him out.

It was kind of cool to watch Silver when he starts to wander around, a discovery tour of the apartment nosy as he is (he is a cat). But it was not as popular from his his side when I started moving furniture. But then here one and a half weeks later, after we moved in here, he is as usual. He feels at home.

An other thing that have past my brain is how grateful and thankful I am for the moving! How thankful I am to have such a good bunch of friends that could help me with my moving. I feel blessed for those friends.

I am also thankful for my land lord he is a great man! He has blessed me every-time I am late to pay my rent, only late because I have not received my monthly money from the government support-system.

I am so blessed to live here! In so many ways. Good neighbors. Generosity from neighbors etc. The house it self is not in the best stand but the neighbors are awesome! Easy to talk to and get along with.

It is definitely more space for Silver too, which is the noise of his play I wakes up to around 02.30 am… but he also sleeps on top of my legs when he sleeps a hole night.

He loves to sit in the window when it is open by approximately 10 cm. He does not try to get out but love to smell everything he’s not used to.

He is so curious to watch what happens in the courtyard. For example, he likes to sit and watch when Greta (landlady) runs out her car from the garage, walk out of the car, shutting the garage door and go back to the car to then reverse out of the courtyard. This takes maybe 5 minutes, but Silver find it so funny to watch.

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As I wrote above have I thought about how I react and what I do if some guy trying to show that he is interested in me. I have been hurt before as many others, and I think that I would love to just drown in his eyes whenever the guy trying to get in contact with me. But I also know that if it is other friends around I don not dare to do drown. I know that’s the only thing I would love to do, to sit there and just sink into his eyes.

So how do I react then?

Well I trying to meet his look for few seconds and then I go back to the others like nothing Happened. But inside of me I am happy and insecure of «is he really interested in me?»

I know me. I need something specific from the guy to understand he is interested in me. Like a card with few words, text-MSG with a smile of love, coffee-date or similarity were he put words on what he thinks or likes with me. And the best is also if that also fit’s him as a person to do.

Why am I so sky when it comes to like someone? Why can’t just be myself when I am such an outgoing person the rest of the time? Why is it so difficult to see how love looks like in different people? And why is most Christian guys so careful and slow?

I mean it is great they are careful to make sure but how am I supposed to understand what a guy means when I need some specific words or «hands up» to understand. I am not that kind of girl that analyzes every tiny word or detail or eye-contact that a guy do or say. No. I am to realistic there. I see the situation and try understand the situation and if I don’t understand I leave it to God.

The things that helps me is bible verse like those (below)…

/Mia-Simone.2016

Single or Get Married? Part one of three.

I am reading a book about this subject right now because I am interesting about the thoughts and mind. I want to get married. I don’t want to be single for the rest of my life. I have had my own struggle with this for some years. For many years I didn’t wanna get married for the course of get my own kids, no, I wanted to get married and then see if I/we could adopt kids. But during the last 4 years God has helped me to change my mind in this. It has been a struggle for me to come to the point I am today but probably worth it.

And during the Christmas holiday (December-15) God spoke to me about this much stronger then I have felt before. I got a longing desire from God to get married. I’ve got a desire to become a mom, a wife, have my family. And this is big for me.

In the book the writer talks about how we can’t really expect the «old style» any more about «how to sit and wait for the right one to show up» It doesn’t look like that in 2016! If you and me have a desire to get married we have to start looking for someone that are in our network and «qualifies» our personality. We have to be doing things and not just wait. Because if we wait, we will probably be waiting for the rest of our life.

It’s not just “what I want in your personality” its also to be able to see “what can you live with” and “how can we compromise each and an others issues?”.

To want to get married is a decision in life. It’s just like to be in-love with a person, it’s a decision you take. It is like if you or I want to take an education, we look for the right one, we apply and we starts it. Its a bit the same with I want to get married.

I am active.

I don’t just sit and wait.

Its not just the thought about «Yes I want to get married one day» well you might but it can take some longer time then you probably wanted. No, it is a decision «I want to get married» to start the process in your mind and soul, doing, acting and living!

It‘s How you Think about it.

It’s not just something that will just happen. It’s about you and me. Do I / you want to get married? If yes, then we have to something about it. We have to start talk about it like we talk about other normal things with our friends. We should not be afraid of talking about things we have on our heart with friends.

I think that if we talk more about this it want be so hard, tricky or awkward and both girls and guys will not be so sky or embarrass about the subject and actually ask someone out.

Whats the worst answer you can get? A no?

Sometimes I think we all are to fast to say those words “no I don’t think we fit each others”. How and what are you grounding this on? Have you seen that much of the persons personality that you know what God’s plan is?

This is my thoughts, what are yours?

/Mia-Simone

My 2015.

Yesterday was it the 28^th of December and here in Norway that’s apart of what they call «romjula» it’s the days after Christmas and before New Years-eve. And for me have those days in the between been days of «getting out in the snow and play» or if it was a bad winter stay inside and play with puzzle since I was a child but as an adult it’s most become «the traveling back to home time» from wherever I have been for Christmas. But this Christmas and all days of December I have been in Oslo, the city I live in. Different but very okay. I have had more then just interesting days! I have had an experience I did not see would come. A positive experience!

I have had time with just myself, do just what I wanted or not wanted to do. It has been a very relaxing Christmas. And we got snow on the 27^th of December – Yay!!

Yesterday was one of those slow days with a surprising cool thing. I went on Facebook just to check one thing and there one of my friends that lives in the state right now, was awake and on her way for work. And she said that the girls would be up at 5:45 am (9 hours behind us in Norway), and that she had told them that also meet her in the kitchen for early breakfast which for me meant Skype time with all three of them. Happy happy happy feeling. Most because I have not really heard much from the other two in a while. It was a good ending of Christmas for me! It is always nice to have the opportunity to catch up with friends especially over Skype when the friends does not live in the same country as I am living in!

The next thing I was doing was one of those things I have done for the last few years in the end of the old year and before the new starts, to write down Goals and Dreams for the year ahead. It is not a necessary to follow it but I am aloud do add things if I am in a situation that reminds me of a dream or goal. And one of my goals is exercising, to do it twice a week and get my body on an other level, get stronger physical and be able to stand against sickness more. And one of my dreams are to be able to travel more.

When I woke up today (not early morning) the snow was and is still here. The light from the snow is indescribable. It means so much for me to have snow during the winter, not just because I “always had it as young” no more because it lighten everything up it does get light with snow because it reflect the little daylight we have this time of the year, which is not much. And something else that reflect is our life, how we live it, how and what we show others. If you and I respect each and other and what’s going on in our life’s it will reflect to those we meet every day. It is the same with family, friends, cow-workers and people we just meet randomly in life. How do you want to your life to reflect on the ones you meet?

To respect a person for what’s going on in the persons life is so important but, yes it is a but here, but if you do not respect a person how will that person be able to respect you? I have been in a situation for some years where some of my family do not respect me in the way of the I am still single, that I have not met someone to share my life with. Those in my family “have been nagging” about “I should get married” like it is the easiest thing in the world… or “have you met someone yet?” like when is it there business? I respect them – those in my family – for what ever they do why can not they do the same for me?

This year that is nearly over… It is only two days left today. As an adult the days runs over to the next fast and if it is December today and January in two days is not the biggest different for me as it was when I was a child. It was such a bigger different then when I was a child. When did that disappeared? 2015 has been an interesting year in many ways. I have learn to be more patient in areas I did not have and I have learn new things from the course I started in sept-14 and ended this summer. I have got new friends, been there for friends that needed me in an other way then the years behind me. My faith has made me stronger. I have had fights I did not wanted but that I can see was good to have. I have learn that distance to my mom and her sickness has not made me weaker but stronger. I have learned to deal with things I did not know how to deal with it. I feel I have grown this year in knowledge, as a person, as a friend and with God in my faith.

I have had time to be creative in the way I needed to be. I have learned to sew after cloth pattern something I never done before. I have had costumers and still have two left that will slide over to the next year. And I will end this year with some sewing and be with friends. And I am looking forward for what next year has to come with! I am curious about next year!

I am thankful for this year.

I am thankful for my friends and my Church.

I am thankful for where I live and where I am gonna move.

I am thankful for life what ever it is giving me.

….here is a mix of picture from this year….

Me as Frosty the Snowman on a costume-party.

/Mia-Simone.Svenberg.2015.Oslo.

Dreams – goals – visions – good night-dreams…

The word “dreams” means different things for each of us. For you it can be a goal to do something, a daydream, vision or a good night-dream. It says that “to dream” is good for the brain and if you are a creative person you mostly dream more.

I dream a lot during the night. Mostly its unrealistic. Doesn’t make sense. But I still do it. I guess my brain has a lot to work with maybe because I am quite creative and have lots of ideas rolling around.

Some of my dreams are true. Like the one I had in the winter off 2005. I was living in Småland on the east coast south of Stockholm, Sweden. There and then it was just one of this unrealistic dreams. I dreamed I was sitting in a garden, didn’t know where I were. It was at the terrasse on the backside of a white stone house. And it was lots of fruit trees there and cozy. I was living there. And to dream this, when it was winter where I were and that I got all the details was in my head “one of those weird dreams”.

Two and a half years later or more was I sitting in that garden. I was living there, as in the dream. Weird! One of the days in May I think it was. I went out on the terrasse and got this “weird feeling” of “I have been here before”. It was there and then I realized this was the dream I had in Småland in 2005.

Most of my dreams are unrealistic but I remember they all when I wake up, and with every little detail, conversation, colors, area, how things are build or the team. I could write it all down but I have never done it because I remember it. Its like my brain has its own life..and just need to work all the creative ideas through hard. Every little idea becomes so big during the night.

But I also have dreams about what I wanna do later in life. I dream about to be able to buy a small house in the forest of Värmland, Västergötland or Halland, in Sweden. To have my own place where I can escape or just go and be alone, to create, to get inspiration and to invite friends for holidays. Or the dream of an old farm-Barn which I would like to change into a workshop for my business. I’m not a big “day dreamer” in the sense of what we as kids most did.

And I have dreams that has become goals in life. Like the thing to get a job and be able to travel more. To see the world.

As most of the friends I have, they like to travel. I want that too! I have started to dream of places I didn’t think about ten fifteen years ago that I wanna see, like New York, Chicago, Boston, San Fransisco, Seattle, Canada and Alaska. Maybe parts of Asia like Thailand or the Philippines – countries that in my head are “to hot” for me just because I don’t really like to much sun. But who says I have to go there when its the warmest period for the season? When I actually can travel when it fits me.

I wanna start travel now before its to late in life. I want to travel for the wish my mom had all my life and she in the end never did because of other things in her life stopped her. I want to see and explore Europe instead of my mom. My mom said many times “When I retired I’m gonna see Europe”. One of her biggest wishes where to see Praha and Berlin. She never got to see those places because of my dad got more then one stroke and she needed to be home with him.

I wanna do this for her and I will keep dreaming of new places.

/Mia-Simone

What are we looking for in life?

Love? Faith? Job? Satisfactory?

Whatever we looking for in life, most of us have it around us or are going to get it on day. Like love and a job, it will come. Maybe we just need to have extra much patience in life, but for most of us we will find a job and we will meet the person that fits our life.

I am in the job-application situations right now. I am applying for a certain type of job that I really like to get. I am not applying for “what ever random job” just to get a job. I just know I will get the job one day. But yes, its hard and it takes quite much time to be in this faze of life. I am just longing to get the interview and hear the word “you got the job” or “we want to hire you”. I am to stubborn to get lazy and give up but some days are more challenging then other days. And those days I prefer to do other things. To set my mind-focus on something more creative or just hang out with friends.

What are we looking for in a person ?

I got that question yesterday. “What kind of personality am I looking for?”

I would say its a hard question in one way, it all depends on who you are. If you know what you want in life you probably know what “you are missing” and the person you are looking for might “need” to have those personalities so you will complete each other.

I know who I am and what I kind of personalities I need in my partner. In the same time I know the biggest key is to compromise to get the hole relationship to work. I am so used to live my life with my time of when or what I do, that I know I need to compromise a lot when the day comes when I have a boyfriend. In a relation I have to compromise in everything which is fine because that’s how it is and should be. To go from “just me to be with someone” can be a big step for most people, in the same time that’s what most people wants in life.

Will you be satisfy ?

Relationship’s

Relationship is….hard, difficult, not easy no matter if it is to your partner or to your family. It is all about to work on it all the time.

I guess it is simulary in most families. I am just so used to not hear complements from my own family. Sad but true. But from my nearest friends and bonus-family I hear more and I am so thankful for that and those people in my life!

What I do hear is *”have you found anyone yet?” or *”you are old enough to get married if you want a family”. Like that is the easiest thing in the world ?!? And why is it so hard to just respect that “everyone” doesn’t find the life-partner early in life ?!? And “everyone” might not want kids or can have there own.

Why is it like this, “you” are somehow a load ask about sore subject to me but if I ask the same question I am rude ?!

Why is it okay to “assume” that a couple wants kids just because they are engaged or married ? Or why is it okay to ask “aren’t you gonna have kids?” What happen with the private frame, “this space is my – that space is yours”?

Who says everyone wants kids? or for the matter want to let you know? Why is it okay to ask “the question” more then once?

Where is the respect for one and another choices today?

I can’t say I saw myself being single in 2015 few years ago, but that’s how life is. And just because I am single I get *the question every time I meet my family and it is more then just enjoining! All I want is respect and non questions about who or if I have met someone.

If I would tell someone about my private life, I do it to close friends or my two bonus-sisters. Before my mom got sick could I tell her, well I guess I could do it now too just knowing she wont even remember it after ten seconds.

I do dream to get married. And I have realized that when that day come it will not please my family. But in the end it is my life, my dream.

/Mia-Simone

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