I read something interesting on facebook today, August 8th. An artical about ” just becauce I am born in a womans body, it doesn’t mean I want kids or become a mother “. Which is so true. Not every woman wants kids. The suciety needs to change theire minds. I mean it is 2021 not 1950!
“If I want or not want to be pregnet is my choice not yours. “
I am like that and have been for years. As a 12 y.o. girl I remember saying ” If I can be pregnet, also meaning having a hubby, I want many kids like 5 or 6, But if I married older than most other I don’t want my own & not being pregnet.”
“why should society decide if you SHOULD have children just because you are a woman?”
When I was around 19, a bit older, I knew I didn’t want my own kids, didn’t want to be pregnet. And after my knee surgery & blood cloth I knew that it would be stupid of me to become pregnet.
No, or maybe I shall say Yes I am one of us woman that never been longing for kids.
The only thing I always been longing for is a hubby. A friend to share my life with. If my future hubby has kids from an other relationship, well that’s just a bonus. I love kids and teenagers. Don’t get me wrong.
How is it for you as a Christian Woman? If you have kids you can’t really answer this but maybe you have a girl friend who feel the pressure from the society? Maybe you live in a country where you don’t really have a choice? Or maybe you never thought about it. Maybe you are a woman that been longing for it but can’t cause nature is different.
Some women can not have children because the eggs are bad, or because, you woman, have other health issues. What do I know. Maybe the only thing you want in life is to be able to carry a child for 9 months but can’t for your reasons. Anyhow. It shouldn’t be a must from the suciety that just becauce I am / you are a woman, we want kids.
“Friends & family should just shut-up, not ask! “
The worst thing is all the questions from friends & family!! “When are you gonna get kids ?” , ” We want cousins.”, ” Have you start to think about kids?”.
Why? Why is this a normal question to ask any woman? When did it start to be your business to know if the woman want kids?
I got so tired of those questions I had to talk to my family one by one. ” I am not longing for my own children. No, I do not want to get pregnant.” And it helped, they stop.
My wish with this post is for you to get your eyes open and respect us women who don’t want our own kids, not want to become a mother by nature or whatever reason we have!!
When you male or female start to respect us you are a part of the change the suciety needs in this topic. Thank you!
mia-simone. svenberg 